How Learning Styles Differ Between Adults and Children

Do you love to learn? How do you learn best? Is it by listening, observing, reading, or physically doing something? If you learn best by observing, you are a visual learner. If you learn best by listening, you are considered an aural learner. Some learn best by using literary skills. Reading and writing is the best way for these literary learners to learn information. Others may find it most effective way to learn through the physical means using their tactical (touch) or kinesthetic (physical) ability. Rather than just finding that one learning style works best, students might find that a combination of these styles might make learning easier. Learning styles are the way we approach learning, solve problems, and use our creativity. Being able to identify which learning style works best for each student, teachers can plan lessons better to meet the needs of the students.

People also have different intellects and learn at various speeds. Each person uses their multiple intelligence with their ability in the following areas: linguistic, logical-mathematical, musical, bodily-kinesthetic, interpersonal, intrapersonal, spatial, and naturalist. When students learn material, the material level needs to be appropriate for the student’s intellectual ability and pace. The student might excel in math, and have the dexterity of an accomplished dancer, but score low on verbal skills. A student’s pace varies based on intellect and learning ability. Advanced students excel at reading material which uses advanced words and concepts, whereas other students might require supplementary materials to work their way through text. The brain also functions impulsively to respond to external and internal factors, and reflectively to mirror what we see and experience. Motor skills and how quickly we react can impact how we learn and respond. External factors such as alcohol and drugs can impact our motor skills effecting how quickly our brain can work. By eating healthy, staying hydrated, and getting enough sleep, a person takes care of their brain keeping it in the best condition to learn.

The brain is divided into two hemispheres, the left and the right side of the brain. Each side functions differently in how we use our logic and creativity. The left side of the brain uses logic, sequencing, helps us think, deals with facts, classifies information, and is verbal and analytical. The right side of the brain brings creativity to the world and is visual, intuitive, non-verbal, and uses the imagination. A person uses both sides of the brain to process information. Children may be more creative when it comes to learning because with less knowledge, they know less constraints. The sky is the limit for possibilities and ideas. Adults, on the other hand, may be more logical because of experiences and knowledge. They are able to analyze and make decisions faster as a result.

Teachers present information to children by scaffolding, or building upon existing knowledge. After determining what a student already knows, they present new material in simple chunks, check for understanding and use repetition to reinforce material. Children are encouraged to interact with one another and as a class asking questions and engage in class discussions. They also learn by applying their knowledge demonstrating their reading and writing skills or by creating something new. They show knowledge of what they have learned by remembering material, showing they understand it by repeating it back, applying it to situations, analyzing information, evaluating, and using what they have learned to create something new. This process is called Blooms Taxonomy. Teachers review material with students before assessing them and then test them to make sure the information has been learned. While students learning styles differ, teachers are equipped with methods to reach a variety of learners.

While adults and children share learning styles, there are differences between the way adults and children learn. Having already spent years learning, most adults are able to learn at a faster pace than children. With a background of information and experiences to draw upon, an adult is able to associate new material with what is already known. Additionally, adults have access to more resources and the ability to sift through information quicker for relevant information. Although adults might learn faster, children are more inclined to take chances, and it is easier for them to have a social circle to interact with on a regular basis for group discussion on topics.  

Adults learn similar to children by building upon previous knowledge. Adults might learn in group settings in classrooms, workshops, or individually using online training programs. The social interaction of a classroom is an open forum for adults to ask questions to peers and instructors, similar to the classroom setting of children. Using technology to learn is popular with all ages. Children thrive on using computers in classrooms and using games to learn material. Adults are more likely to use online training programs to advance their education in individualized, self-paced environments. Technology has made learning easier and fun. It engages students using a combination of learning styles. Online learning programs offer the ability to adjust levels of the program to meet the student’s ability.

Learning is a life long process. Adults who value education continue to learn their entire life. It opens new doors, bring enthusiasm, motivation, opens the door to lively discussions with other people, and adds to a person’s style and class. Whether online, through seminars, or by reading books, everyone has the opportunity to learn something new!

References

“Learning Styles. All Students Are Created Equally and Differently.” Teach Make a Difference. https://teach.com/what/teachers-know/learning-styles.

“Overview of Learning Styles.” learning-styles-online.com, Advanogy.com. http://www.learning-styles-online.com/overview (accessed 2020).

Pietrangelo, Ann. “The Left Brain and Right Brain Theory.” Healthline. https://teach.com/what/teachers-know/learning-styles (accessed January 18, 2017).


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How the Brain Learns

How the Brain Learns
Our brains construct skill patterns or schemas for everything we know how to do. As central to the human nervous system it weighs approximately three pounds, is about 1131 cubic centimeters in volume for females and 1274 cubic centimeters for males, with billions of neurons. Every human brain is unique in its ability and the way it learns. Although brains may differ slightly based on the dimensions of a person’s head, the size of a brain is not related to the intellect of a person. The way the brain receives new information, transfers information with its neurons, associates with previous knowledge already stored in the brain, and the frequency a person uses the brain all contribute to how the brain learns new information.

The Brain
The brain is a soft mass of tissue and nerves attached to the spinal cord. The cranium, which is part of the skull, covers the brain, protecting it by encasing it in a framework of bones. Cerebrospinal fluid flows around the brain and the spinal cord as lubrication and to prevent shock. Nerves from the brain are connected to areas of the body controlling mobility, personality, senses, and functions. The brain consists of three parts, the cerebrum, cerebellum, and brain stem. The cerebrum is the large outer part of brain which makes up 85% of the mass of the entire brain. It is divided in half with two hemispheres. The left and right hemispheres each control opposite sides of the body. The left controls the right side of the body and the right side of brain controls the left side of body. The cerebrum controls speech, emotions, movements, senses, short-term and long-term memory, language, learning, thinking, and reasoning. The cerebellum found at the bottom of the brain controls the body’s balance and coordination. The brain stem is the bottom of the brain which connects the cerebrum to the spinal cord. Besides being a connector to the human vertebrae, the stem of the brain controls the functions of the body such as breathing, movement of the eyes, blood pressure, and heartbeat.

The brain is divided with an upper and lower brain. The upper brain, or prefrontal cortex, controls the reflective part of the brain where learning, memory, and decision making occur. The lower brain controls the body’s functions both with its reactive and involuntary responses. It also triggers reactions to the body in emergency situations. The amygdalae serves as the communication between the upper and lower brain and directs information to where it belongs in the brain structure. When information is received to the brain, the amygdalae decides if it belongs in the upper brain or lower section of the brain.

Neurotransmitters such as dopamine, dendrites and axions help transfer information within the brain. When you are happy, dopamine is released in the brain causing positive feelings. As a neurotransmitter, dopamine brings pleasure and satisfaction. It can also increase drive or motivation. This is why learning is best while relaxed. Stress relievers such as laughter, listening to music, or having fun release dopamine causing the brain to receive information better and increases motivation and openness to learn. Having a positive mindset and noticing successes, helps with learning. Even if learning is challenging at times, recognizing small achievements along the way as stepping-stones can help show progress and increase motivation. Dopamine helps transmit positive energy to the neurons relaxing the brain and relieving stress making it easier to learn.

How the Brain Operates
The brain has billions of cells called neurons. As you learn, fibers, called dendrites and axions, grow from these neurons. Acting as neurotransmitters, dendrites and axions are extensions of neurons which send and receive information to and from other dendrites. The information is transmitted across a liquid area between the dendrites called a synapse. Dendrites continue to multiply from existing dendrites, creating more dendrites, as you learn.

At the beginning of the learning process, sensory information enters the brain filtered in by the reticular activating system (RAS) found in the lower part of the brain. The information is transmitted by synapses through pathways of neurons to an area for short-term memory. Here information is compared to previous knowledge stored in the brain and then travels through neural pathways to be stored in long-term memory. This happen instantaneously. Information is transmitted between neurons. If the neurons are familiar with interacting, information is passed along more easily. If it they are not, it may cause information to be forgotten or not remembered completely.

The brain continues to learn throughout the life-span of a person from the time of birth until the time of the death of brain cells. The ability for the brain to continue to develop a neural network responding to stimuli is called neuroplasticity. The more neural connections there are, the easier it is to learn and at a faster pace. The more times the brain is used for learning, the brain’s circuits become stronger making it easier for a person to learn.

How the Brain Learns
When you learn something new, sensory information is directed by the amygdala into the hippocampus. This information which is received is connected to prior knowledge already stored in the brain. The brain loves patterns. Use of patterns and repetition help connect the new information to what is already known and predict what is next. Using repeat patterns to remember will help retain information. Stimuli which use the senses for sight, sound, smell, touch, and hearing also helps with learning. New information remains in short-term memory until it is understood and applied. It is then stored in the long-term memory area of the brain.

Good Health
A healthy lifestyle helps with learning and keeping the brain working to its best ability. Taking care to get enough sleep, reduce stress, and eating healthy are all important  Eating healthy and drinking plenty of fluids is essential to caring for the brain. The brain uses 20% of the body’s oxygen and requires nutrients from a healthy diet and hydration to keep the brain functioning. Food which are high in anti-oxidants, caffeine, vitamin C and K, zinc, magnesium, copper, iron, and omega-3 help with brain development, keeping the mind sharp, assist with memory, transporting oxygen to the brain, and healing the brain. Nutrients also help prevent Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s disease. 

Healthy Foods which Help the Brain Function and Learn
Some examples of food which are good for the brain and learning include: Fish which contain omega-3, such as salmon, have fatty acids that help keep blood vessels clear and nerves functioning at a high level. Omega-3 helps to keep the brain sharp and prevent Alzheimer’s disease and Parkinson disease. Coffee and tea are also good for the brain as the caffeine causes the brain to be alert and helps with concentration. It also boosts serotonin which increases your mood. Coffee as well as blueberries and dark chocolate are high in anti-oxidants which keep oxygen flowing to the brain. Anti-oxidants fight stress, are anti-aging agents, and prevent disease. Nuts and eggs support memory and brain development. Broccoli, a good source of Vitamin K, helps with having good memory, protect the brain against damage, and builds sphingolipids, or fat found in brain cells. Oranges and strawberries are high in vitamin C help mental decline and fight off free radicals which damage brain cells. Nutrients found in vitamins and foods such as zinc, magnesium, copper, and iron are important for brain health. Pumpkin seeds contain all of these. These nutrients help with nerve signaling, prevention of disease, migraines, epilepsy, and depression. Turmeric is also good to help the brain heal itself and relieve stress.

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Leading a Restoration of Dignity

Digging into dignity of a person comes in many forms. At a minimum, it may be a few words in jest not meant to be disrespectful. At its worse, it is disowning the value of a human person and dishonoring their very existence.

An individual has dignity when they hold self-worth despite what others say or do. Fig leaves are a symbol of the first attempt of dignity after the fall of Adam and Eve from the Garden of Eden. As you can see in 1 Corinthians 12:23, for those who read the Bible, those parts which are less honorable are clothed, so that they may have greater honor. Whether it is sensitive matters of areas of our life or private areas of our bodies, choosing to keep these covered is part of maintaining our human dignity. While each person may have a different degree of what is acceptable to them, it should be respected that the other person does not have an equal degree of liberal dignity standards. For example, if a person is stripped and guided around in public without clothes on against their will, that would be an insult to that person’s human dignity. Watching a person going to the bathroom or showering without permission is an insult to human dignity. This is taken a step further would be even more insulting to share details of this with others. Each culture has boundaries in place to where dignity is maintained and where it’s tread upon, with most of these boundaries agreed upon throughout the world.

Having a good attitude when there is a loss, is a form of maintaining dignity. Perhaps, it is losing a contest and tossing away pride to shake the other’s hand. It may be knowing that you were called on a bad action and then come forward with it to own it. It is taking what might be viewed as shame and turning it over with ownership, choosing the higher road. 

Lack of dignity is found in many situations. A person who is unclothed and is viewed without permission, a women who is raped without her consent, the person who is homeless who is despised, or a person is treated less than equal to the general population even if they blend in, or where lack of ability or lack of physical or mental perfection is found in an individual and is mocked. It is the person who is spit on because of differences in belief, race, ability, or physical attributes. It is spying and eavesdropping invading the privacy of another, revealing trite acts of normal human daily functions such as toileting or other intricacies to disgrace someone, speaking crassly or of taboo topics when higher etiquette and conversational topics are expected. It is misuse of the human body of another person in its normal functions. It is comparing against what cannot be met and repeatedly told ‘not adequate’. Lack of dignity is any situation where a person is not respected when respect is due given.

As people who encounter other people every day, we can choose to be leaders or bystanders when we notice this. What makes a great leader is one who notices wrong and stands for what is right. It is refusing disparagement, the publication of false and injurious statements that are derogatory of another’s property, business, or product. It is the person who advocates change to make a difference for the good-will and safety of all. Dignity gives human worth and honor to each person and protects that which they choose to keep reserved.

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I encourage everyone to be a source of inspiration to all you meet to change the current culture where dignity is lacking.  Every day I encounter dignity compromised in speech with segregation and discriminatory hate statements. Remote access given to view me live anywhere using cameras and cell phone apps with thousands who have had illegal access to view and comment live overhead to create psychologically abusive environments that cannot be escaped from. On average 6-10 people have access a day overhead, with over 50 a month and additional people added almost daily. Information is revealed that should not be anyone’s concern to publicly shun and humiliate to the entire DFW metroplex which I hear at every retail store and every place I go to. Known people rather speak remotely breaching the privacy overhead in the ceiling than spend time in person and curtail any new acquaintances to cause a life of isolation. Many groups of people have been involved in sexual crimes spraying me unconscious as a means for fun, such as a recent event with 20 rapists who pulled me out of my car and transported me to 3 locations for 20 rapes in one night, and previously other sexual crime parties of perversion and rape, at several places I’ve lived the last decade. The top stalkers use radiation assaults to abuse me overhead almost every night buzzing my body out of punishment or to wake me up. They hate my reproductive system and will use pinpoint lasers to touch body parts, use radiation to buzz, microwave radiation to expand organs, etc. They have used sprays, Taser guns, smelling objects, and hypnosis to knock me unconscious. They use transcendental dreams to strip my soul as I sleep. They inquire questions and set scenarios as they seek truths which may or not be the case and comment on what they observed as I wake up. These same people, with their propaganda have caused a discrimination issue in 56 jobs where I am hired to be publicly humiliated and let go within a day or less on average. Employers this year are even delaying paychecks by months after doing this. Despite constant reports it is all considered a civil matter, and with no means for defense, it has been a bombardment of hate, violation, and oppression for the last 13 years. These are my family members, former friends, priests, and other people. Every alive person I’ve every known has been involved who these organizers have recruited. All new employers or associations are given access as well. Standards of human dignity has completely escaped for these people. Thousands have been involved here in this area. How can dignity and privacy be elevated to a proper level of respect and value for each other?


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Respect the Box of Chocolates

Mysterious, chocolate covered candies of sweetness all in different shapes and coatings lined up in neat little rows, ready to be enjoyed. Referencing the card or box is the only way to tell what might be delighting your taste buds next. Which one is the ‘best’ is hard to tell, but most of them will probably suit your fancy.  

Each person is unique, just like these chocolates in a box. Many classify people by trying to match them against the persona of ‘the ideal type’. Whomever sets these criteria listens to what our culture finds as the most satisfying, pleasing, and acceptable. These qualities are sure to make 100% of everyone happiest. Usually the recommendations as to what is ‘best’ are in reference to physical attributes or materialistic possessions. If you want the perfect person, you must look for xyz or else, it won’t work. If you do not have these clothes, this house, this demeanor, this belief system, then you are not in-bounds. These hypercritical people spend so much time pointing out what is wrong with others, instead of using their time more productively identifying what does works for them and seeking companionship with those Even better use of time would be for these nitpickers to work on fine-tuning what is lacking in themselves which might be contributing to their unhappiness.

Self-confidence is sometimes achieved in a negative way by nitpicking at others faults in areas which are not a concern to that person. A much better approach would be to focus on the attributes that are best liked in others. By accentuating these, a person learns to appreciate the uniqueness of each individual and the gifts that person bring to this world. If a person is not liked, move on. It’s that simple. There are 7.5 billion people who are out there to be met. What good does it do to tear people down who you don’t like? In fact, when it comes to civility it is considered rude to point out what you do not like in others. A person cannot be that attached to what they do not like in someone. It is better to walk away rather than try to get another person to change to meet what you would like to see, especially if it is not important to them. People are not meant to be forced to fit into the same sized cube. Not everyone is going to look the same, believe the same, or want the same things you do. 

To some, respecting differences in others comes naturally. They enjoy people because they are different, and there is enough common ground which exists to maintain a friendship. These people find it refreshing to be around many different kinds of people who add an eclectic aspect to their social interactions. A wider perspective is needed for those who cannot see past differences. Instead of seeing uniqueness, or focusing on the positive attributes, they become hostile and attacking. These people would benefit from wearing special filtered glasses. They need to realize that their cube is not the only cube. Expanding their minds with special glasses might open new frontiers for them.

Respect others with silence and an open mind toward learning about their perspective or beliefs. Find commonality, grow empathy, and accentuate the positive. Try to observe that a view might be different does not qualify the acceptance of a person’s existence. When despised differences are made into the intolerance of the person’s existence, stereotypes and discrimination form. Each person, no matter what their perspective is, should be given dignity and human worth. Some people will be better suited for you than others, and in fact, most probably will work with your persona of ideal, and even within the margins you have around that ideal which define your acceptability range…but for those who aren’t within your framework, destroying them because they are not the same as you, is not OK. There is value in having differing opinions, and civility should still be maintained despite differences.

Try this. Buy a variety box of chocolates. You can even find a small box at the dollar store. When you open it look at the chocolates and I would guess a smile would come to your face. Those, you could say, are all the people you could meet—you just don’t know what they are about or what they are inside. You are only judging by appearance and what you think they are about. Then pick one, delicately take a bite and admire the inside, and see if it is satisfactory. It probably is a taste of the divine. If not, then you can try another one. What would be worse never getting to know anything different than your view and giving it some worth. In essence it is insulting the Maker because of all the reasons you cannot stand this on or that one, and not finding any quality to appreciate. There is beauty and appreciation to be found in everyone. What is so nice is the uniqueness of each individual..


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Introspect on Respect

Respect. A word that is fought for or attempted to be reclaimed when lost. It crosses a line which each of us has where dishonor begins and loss of human value. Many times it can be overcome brushed aside, but disrespectfulness can add up, crossing even into attacking human dignity. Some people allow external factors or negative thoughts to trump over knowledge of their own human worth with the worse of cases ending in suicide. Media and the arts set the standard for our culture for communication, dress, and interactions with one another. It is important to have our personal boundaries established of what is acceptable for ourselves and what isn’t.

Basic respect appears to be lost with the majority of the population. Why is this? Maybe because we are busy and self-absorbed with our life more than others? Being much busier may not really be as much the case, but rather that our latest electronic device is more interesting than spending quality time with the people around us. Electronic communication provides a newfound security as people become increasingly more timid interacting with others directly, but bolder in what they have to say with indirect interactions online. Intimacy is reached quicker, all while hiding behind the ‘safety’ of an electronic device. A watered-down value of the other person is left as respect is screened out. It is about what “I have to say” and less about how I am making you feel and do I even care because within seconds there is the next post on the timeline to read, the next text message to respond to, and the next phone call to take which is more important than the person in front of you.

Respect is also lost because the majority of modern media and reality TV shows are influencing us with a lesser standard of respect. Themes revolve on what shocks, what is intimate, and what is revealed. We find what is gross, insulting, and negative as funny. Even everyday purchases such as birthday cards are centered on less than desirable subjects with bathroom humor as topics. The language which is used in media, the arts, and material goods which we buy all set the example of how we communicate. If the grossness, the insults, and the negativity is not rejected, this lesser quality is what our culture sets as the acceptable standard of disrespectfulness.

Purchases which might impact the respect of our culture extend to the fashion industry as well. Clothes made of sheer and revealing material are easy to shop for while more respectful or gender specific clothing are harder to find on the rack. Would men respect women differently if they wore appropriate skirts more than jeans or pants? Considering what we wear everyday might make a difference. While dressing for comfort is standard for our culture and even in many work environments, how does this cause our presentation overall to slide. There is a greater respect for others and formality in our speech which results from dressing up and caring a little more about your appearance.

This can also be seen in the arts. Historically people dressed up for cultured events and found meaning in performances. This naturally led to quality discussions as part of the enjoyment of the event. Our entertainment has changed in today’s culture to what satisfies quickly, with little meaning in the message, and media strictly viewed for amusement. It is nothing to dress up for and very little meaning impacts us as a result of the experience. It is simply a time to relax and laugh at disrespectfulness in many cases, desensitized to the rudeness instead of being bothered by it. When an event is found important and you dress up for it, the standard of respect found at the event and culture is usually higher. The effort which we put into anything can also create greater respect. Is it because we have quick fixes as we become a more efficient society and give less respect to things which must be worked for? Is it less attractive to pursue those things which have work involved when quick fixes exist? These are all points to think about at least.

If we all choose to be more respectful in how we speak, no matter what the circumstance, we can begin to change the culture of disrespect. Respect could become an art in itself to master. Have you listened to what you say when you talk to others? If you could play it back, would what you hear be statements of respect and kindness? There is something to be said for respectful phrases which have fallen away. We need to build people up, not tear them down. We need to respect boundaries which are set, not bulldoze over them thinking we can do whatever we please. Despite any differences we may have with others, people will respond better with respectful language and actions and the standard of respect in our culture can change as a result.

By practicing a greater degree of respect and kindness, we can be an influential element for a civilized culture resulting in quality relationships, positive energy, and greater happiness. It means guarding our speech and actions until we can make it habit. Civilized people who practice good etiquette always choose to be polite and respectful, give consideration to other people, and are positive.

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Lovin’ Butter

Oooh…where are your margins when it comes to lovin’ butter, or are you already an expert at spreading love generously?

The desire to be loved is part of human nature. It can be felt in varying degrees by the people we interact with in our lives. To love is what we all have the capability to do, although some may struggle to express it more than others. Some come from damaged loving experiences and can hardly be pleasant, let alone love others, while others are exploding with so much love, that no one can escape their exuberant spirit of acceptance and radiant energy of love. Loving better is something we all can do.

Being kind and considerate toward another may become less of an importance. Over time, a relationship can deteriorate without even realizing it. Suddenly the relationship may have more arguments and less care between the people involved. If a relationship of any kind between two people is worth salvaging, a person will try to identify what is causing the problem and take steps to try to find a compromise. Realizing that there is a communication issue can open the door to finding out what the underlying problem is. There may be a lapse in consideration for the other as the person is taken for granted or used overstepping boundaries. The first step to repairing a relationship is realizing there is a problem and identifying it with a sincere desire to amend the difference. Step back and reevaluate the situation and your own response. What is it that you are finding yourself doing? What does the other person really need from you? Maybe your approach is not the best one and you don’t even realize it. Don’t worry. Things are not toast. We know you are in a jam. Let’s roll up our sleeves and take a closer look.

Here are a few things to evaluate:

Do you find yourself judging the other person?

Do you tell them often what they should do?

Do you do all the talking?

Are you always negative?

Do you negate what they have to say frequently?

Are you invading their privacy or treading into sensitive areas?

How often do you follow-up on their problems they mention to you?

How often do you delve into areas you can offer to help?

Are there ways you can be more thoughtful?

Do you speak well about them to others?

Do you make time for them?

Are you dependable?

Do you treat them without expecting something in return?

Relationships naturally occur and it is not typical that we analyze the person we are spending time with—we just interact and love them naturally. If you can become aware of what it is that makes them feel loved, you can “love them better”.  Men for example do not respond as much to verbally being told “I love you”. They need to know they are appreciated and are valued by what they do. A woman, on the other hand, prefers to be listened to and have time spent with them without distractions. Each person is unique and have their own recipe in what they respond to best.

Communication styles can contribute significantly to relationships. Respectfulness towards another person often is communicated in how we speak to them. What is your tone of voice? What words do you use? How can you adjust these? Affirmations can be beneficial to any relationship. By steering away from negative comments and criticism, and recognizing the blessings others bring with their presence, you can breathe positivity into a relationship which can only move it on a better road. Be thankful and express your gratitude frequently more than complaints. Finally, how sincere are you when you communicate? Loving relationships are based on truth and it is surprising how transparent words are which are not meant, often by the actions which support them.

Love is also expressed with nonverbal communication. It can be as simple as smiling more frequently, being more affectionate, or doing acts of kindness. Acts of generosity toward another person, whether big or small, show care by expressing kindness as an act of love. Perhaps you can find a way to help another person to make their life easier. Are you the type who is always busy or finds interruptions a bother? Try to be more approachable and make time. It only takes seconds for body language to be read, which can communicate receptiveness, openness, and warmth. It also can show offense which is an indication you need to try another approach or react differently. Being able to recognize these indicators and respond to them is a way to show you respect the other person. Facial and body expressions are best read in person and are invaluable at interpreting how a person feels. Use these body expressions and facial indicators to help understand how receptive a person is and to read boundaries they have. Realizing that “STOP” really means “STOP” and “NO” really means “NO” needs to be followed for relationships to be successful. This can be communicated in words or non-verbally. Thoughtfulness is always thinking of the other person first in an unselfish manner. It is loving another as well as you would like to be loved, if not better. Lovin’ butter means livin’ better.

Putting love into action and modifying your communication will help let the other person know they are valued and are special. It will also give them the dignity they deserve and show acceptance. Express love without reserves by going beyond the “margarines” and express it “butter”.


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