Personality of Coronavirus

I am surprised at how compliant everyone has been with wearing a mask. It is mandatory within stores and public buildings, but it is just as common to see people wearing masks outside exercising. In Texas, even with the heat in the 100’s, people are continuing to wear masks outdoors, sweating from fear of the Coronavirus.

I think it would be interesting to do a psychological study of people based on how much they are masking themselves. As concern for the Coronavirus has continued, I’ve noticed people covering up their faces more and more. In retail environments where there have been the most people, I have seen people so covered up you cannot even see their face! How can the police even identify a thief anymore? Women are seen wearing large sunglasses and masks so that only their foreheads are left uncovered. Men wear bandanas that cover up the entire bottom half of their face below their eyes. Whereas in most cases it is difficult to implement any kind of policy, somehow wearing a mask is not even questioned. There are very few people who argue with it. How many of these are wearing a mask for prevention reasons and how many are wearing it because of psychological needs for safety, security, love, and belonging?

I have seen people who have their entire face covered. Is this a sign of care and security that the person is trying to create for themselves? Does the amount of coverage of the face signify fulfilling a need of self-love and way of conquering pain in their life, like trying to swaddle themselves in a baby blanket? Or maybe it is coverage from the fear of contracting the virus built up from all the hype and coverage of media, rather than the virus itself.

Perhaps for some, it is a way to physically look better or a means to lose weight. Sweating under a mask burns off calories on an entirely different area of the body than is typical. Similarly, with weight loss, how is it that a person can breathe who is exercising with their mouth and nose covered? I had a gym membership and it was manageable to walk on a treadmill at a slow speed with a mask on. However, any faster cardio activity was nearly impossible as the mask restrained breathing and caused my face to become really hot. Do people who workout intensely masked think it will strengthen their lungs by restraining their air? For those who are self-conscious about the bottom half of their face, it provides a chance to keep it hidden, but for most of us, we need a full supply of air. Likewise, it is a mystery to me how cyclists are able to ride their bikes completely masked. Yet many of them are cycling miles around the lake at the same speed as normal. How many of the walkers and runners with dogs on a leash do not care that the Coronavirus can be contracted to their pet? Where are the pet masks? Wouldn’t it make more sense if both pet and owner wore a mask or didn’t?

Living in a self-expressive era, people are eager to express themselves and show their personality and style. For those who care to express themselves by mask, wearing a unique mask is a way to do this. The number of styles I have seen have ranged from glitter and bling, to exaggerated mouths on the mask, patriotic versions, cartoons, and plenty of different colors and patterns. Those who love to sew, were quick to see the Coronavirus as an opportunity to show their skills. Handmade masks were made and distributed to friends and family members. Many still wear the basic disposable, blue and white mask. Bandanas also have been a quick makeshift for a mask, easily made by folding a bandana into thirds and popping hair bands on each end.

Very few people are actually practicing social distancing with 6 feet of space, but wearing a mask is followed by nearly the entire population and has become a trend. Has self-expression and the trend for fashion tied in with keywords like “social distancing” created a fad to drive compliancy?

Health and self-expression are always going to be top-sellers when it comes to the general public. Having an ailment or a special condition, makes you a commodity. We see this with parents and their children. “My child has ADHD”, or whatever other symptom, suddenly makes the child “special” and the parents have a topic to talk about. Topics revolve around the problem with their child, rather than emphasizing what the child excels in. This is a way parents can converse with one another encountering less feeling of inadequacy. Empathy can be found with a health issue, whereas bragging on talent might create adversity with another parent. The same type of approach applies to adult-to-adult conversation. Adults would rather discuss their woes rather than talk about what is uplifting. How many older people talk about their pains, medications and doctors visits when it would be more pleasant to hear about their life experiences. It creates a concern for self, which results in compassion from the other person. With the Coronavirus everyone gets a special band-aid pasted on their face.

It is understandable that vulnerable populations such as the elderly might have a greater fear of catching the Coronavirus. One would think that children would be of a higher concern as well. In retail store environments, I have heard mothers question why their children must wear a mask or if an exception can be made. Events and kids meals might make exceptions for kids, but with smaller lungs and little bodies, it would seem obvious they would fall into the high concern bracket. Psychologically is it that the parent feels neglected of care and must nurture themselves by wearing a mask while giving the child the benefit of freedom? The parent positions him or herself as the one who needs care above the child, when it should be both.

With the rich and famous, masking opens up more opportunities to be in public and not be identified. For those aspiring to be rich and famous, they too can dress differently and go around town in mask for a different experience. It is a chance for the affluent to be fashionable and show their sense of fashion by affording specialized masks to coordinate with their outfits. An article was posted about the Queen of England who wears a mask that matches her daily wardrobe of brightly colored suits. I also saw a young woman in downtown Dallas who had a mask made of the exact material of her outfit.  

While some cultures such as Islam require head coverings, covering the face is new for most Western cultures. Will this develop a greater appreciation for our mouths? An uncovered mouth is needed for sound and volume. Many hard of hearing must be affected by not being able to hear people who have mouth coverings on. It may create a new vision for how we see people, noticing the person rather than the external qualities. The mouth is also used for reading facial expressions. A person can take a vacation from smiling and no one will even know. I’ve even seen people stick their tongue out at me from behind their mask. And as for revenue from foundation makeup and lipstick, I would imagine sales are down. Personally, I prefer to be mask-free as much as possible, but follow policies where wearing a mask is required.

Wearing a mask is the perfect prelude to a reformation of etiquette in our culture. After being in timeout with the Coronavirus, with shelter in place, we were able to have a greater appreciation for our freedom and ability to interact with one another. Covering the mouth and nose, can visually signify halting gossip and nosiness, which is also indicative of rudeness. When restrictions were lifted for public shopping, it was a renewed experience of respectfulness of distance and the exclusiveness of having space while shopping. People were obedient to this and cautious of infecting others by following social distancing procedures. Now that most places have opened up, there seems to be not much difference as everyday life returns to normal. When we take our masks off, we will see other people’s faces again. What it would be like to remove the band-aids over our mouths and noses yielding a healed and healthy society of people. Furthermore, what if being mask-free meant a world culture safe from the Coronavirus, and one with a greater respectfulness for each other in our interactions and speech.  

Note: It is noted that the Coronavirus is real and has caused many deaths worldwide. This article is written from another perspective hoping to present other points such as how well marketed the Coronavirus has been with precautions followed seamlessly by the majority of the population because of the scare. A lack of respectfulness in today’s culture is equally contagious and deadly, which is a natural segue to this current worldwide concern.


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Tongue Tied: How To Lick the Rudeness by Using Better Etiquette PODCAST

PODCAST SCRIPT

Hi! This is Clean Up Dallas with Culture and Kindness and today is June 24, 2020. Today’s podcast is Tongue Tied and today we’re going to talk about how to lick the rudeness by using better etiquette.

Speaking can really get us in trouble sometimes if we aren’t careful. Using good taste and using good tact is part of civilized communication. There are several types of negative habits that are used when speaking that make conversation unpleasant. There is a good book which we will be discussing later this weekend on June 27 in our online Facebook book club. The book is called 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue, What You Say (and don’t say) Will Improve Your Relationships by author, Deborah Smith Pegues. I encourage everyone to join the discussion—so be sure to RSVP online on the Clean Up Dallas with Culture and Kindness Facebook page. The book goes into 30 different negative ways of speaking that we easily can get caught up in. If you would like to have better conversations, you’ll want to take a look at this book as it identifies communication habits which can be offensive and negative. I hope you will join us!

Assess your Own Tongue
Tongue tied as to where to begin to have more pleasant conversations and wondering how to lick the rudeness? Well, the first step is sticking your tongue out for an assessment! Which ways do you communicate which need some work? If you aren’t sure, spend today or this week noticing how you talk to others. Are you complaining? Do you belittle others when you talk? Whether it is being discouraging by speaking with a downbeat tone, speaking as a know-it-all, lying and speaking mis-truths, using manipulation, or other ways of being rude…there are several ways people speak which are not pleasant to listen to or be around. By identifying these, you can resolve how to change how you speak and see how those you interact with enjoy the conversation more.

Identify the Way Others Speak
The second step for improving rudeness in communication is to identify the way others speak which may not be pleasant. Do you have a friend who uses profanity frequently? It can be harsh to listen to and make a person uncomfortable and in some cases even be verbally abusive. What about the person who loves to gossip? Listening to gossip can seem intriguing but it is a negative habit to pick-up and is damaging to the person it is about as well as your own reputation. What about those who lack tact when they speak and talk. They talk about taboo topics which are sexual in nature, lude, racist or discriminatory. These conversations are digressive and it would be more enjoyable if of another caliber—there are so many other more pleasant and respectful things to speak about than “gutter talk”. How do you address people who speak this way? Are situations like this leaving you tongue tied? The best way is to confront the person and let them know. Choose your words carefully, address the person and politely let them know what they are saying is offensive to you. If you don’t let them know, they may not know what they are doing is offensive. There are also times to remain silent. It is easy to get caught up in responding rudely to someone who is rude. The person you are addressing will get the message clearer if you speak simply and with respect rather than getting into a heated argument. If they still don’t stop, then limit your conversation with them to just formality and politeness. There are more enjoyable people to talk to, why spend time where your ears are being battered and where you can be brought down? Spend time listening to people who use their tongue to speak kindly and positively. The result will be a budding relationship in good taste.

There are a number of ways of rude communication in the way people speak about others. Remember the game telephone? You probably played it as a kid. It’s where someone tells someone something and then it is passed from one person to the next until it finally gets to the last person. The last person who reports what was transferred usually ends up with an entirely different message than what the first person said to begin with. It is so easy to twist the message of others to another meaning. Unless you are speaking to the source, you may not have the correct information. Be careful in what you share and be careful in what you hear. If it is personal business sometimes the best call is to not speak about it until you can find the few you can trust.

The gossiping tongue and meddling tongue are probably among the most challenging. Even in the most conservative settings like churches, it is not unusual to find gossipers who will ruin your name and the positive experience of being at church to worship; and it happens in plenty of other settings as well. Gossipers, those who spread information about others, and meddlers, those who want to protrude into the lives of others, are not sensitive to the other person’s life. They are insensitive and hurtful by being disrespectful with their conversations, comments, and prying questions. Even reverse gossip, the gossip of telling people they are trying to stop gossip or forewarning them of a situation, can still be gossip and is something to avoid. An example is when someone says “don’t say this…” but still mentions what the topic is about. Tie it up by standing up for the person who is being talked about. Tie up the conversation and let the person know you are not interested in hearing it and don’t hang around for more.

There are also plenty of people who have “an authoritative voice” which translates to an authoritative sounding tongue. These people, because of the way they communicate, sound like they are the expert and because of the tone of voice they use they can easily command others with what they tell them. They are natural salesmen and what they say does not need much explanation. No one questions their validity for some reason and really it has a lot to do with the fact they have an authoritative tone of voice. As expert con-artists, painting the picture to what they want you to believe, they have the ability to make it sound like you are their best friend who they are sharing important information with, even if you are a stranger. These people can be especially dangerous when it comes to gossip spreading. Anyone will buy their story and do whatever they tell them to spread it on to others, even if it is contorted from the actual truth, or is unnecessary to speak about to begin with.

Also avoid monkeying with monikers. Name-calling which is typical of little children, is not immune to the adult world. This type of juvenile communication exists among adults and is a form of bullying. While a name or phrase to describe someone may seem like a joke, it can be highly offensive. These monikers, or nicknames, can become popular and cause uncontrollable damage once it becomes attached as the new name for the person. It can become a form of public humiliation and shun. We hear these all the time for overweight people, ability, looks, beauty marks or perceived flaws, things that the common population may not agree with and find it a way to shun someone by mockery. It is a beautiful thing that we all were given a name at birth. Nicknames are fine, as long as the person finds it as acceptable. If not, it is offensive and harassment, is a form of targeted hate.

Pray for Your Tongue
The third way to tie up your tongue from speaking in ways which are unkind, is by praying for your tongue and speech. Hold yourself accountable by having a checklist of how you spoke throughout the day and see if you can do better next time. There are plenty of good quotes in the Bible and online which you can use for motivation. Think before you speak and remember to always speak gently, kindly and with charity. Over time you will become more well-spoken.

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Spiritual Encouragement: Turning to Prayer and Meditation to Find Encouragement

Many people turn to prayer and meditation to find encouragement. Prayer helps alleviate worries releasing them, leaving a sense of peacefulness. People who pray, find encouragement knowing there is something greater in control of the situation at hand. Time dedicated to prayer and meditation causes an inner peace which naturally results in greater charity and kindness toward others. Whatever you are going through, you can find encouragement, through prayer and meditation.

As the numbers increase of those with the Coronavirus, concerns of how the future will unfold are in question. People are faced with accumulating bills, jobs are in flux for many, and other uncertainties. Despite this, encouragement can be found in worrying less about the future, and focusing more on enjoying the present. There is a time for everything, and perhaps the biggest benefit is being able to enjoy a season of slowing down and making time for nature, people, and personal growth. Make today an enjoyable one and do something you haven’t had the chance to do. Spend time with those you love, speak to a stranger, or make friends with a person you’ve had a conflict with. With more businesses starting to re-open, fears are being subsided as people venture out and return to everyday life while practicing social distancing precautions to stay safe and healthy.

Spiritual growth helps people find encouragement in a world that is filled with despair and fear. It refocuses one’s thoughts on being thankful, casts away worries and doubts, increases charity toward others in speech and action, and enlightens one’s perspective for positivity and hope. Nurturing spirituality results in finding peace with any situation. Find encouragement with daily prayer and mediation!

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Swearing Not My Type

Mouth of a sailor. Tide for the mouth. What is your tongue wearing? What are your ears subjected to from others?

People use swear words to “be cool or tough” or indignantly say them out of frustration. It can easily become habit. Why is it that people choose to use crass language and profanity to communicate? It might make a person seem more dangerous if they speak roughly using these unnecessary words. This type of communication may also be used as a form of artillery to attack another person. To bombard another person with unpleasant speech can be a method to alleviate feelings of hate or frustration which are built up. Some involuntary start spewing profanity during heated arguments to try to gain advantage in conflict or out of desperation to express anger.

Speech is a gift. Words used correctly can ring pleasantly in the ears of another to warm their soul. Words which are used correctly in speech can be a way to show respect to another person.

If you are a swearing addict, here are some creative ways to lick bad habits and strive for a new found tongue:

  1. Come up with words to replace the words you typically use.
  2. Instead of using the whole span of your profane vocabulary, choose only use one word for a certain amount of time before eliminating even that word.
  3. Reward yourself when you choose to speak without swearing.
  4. Bite your tongue and do not speak.
  5. Be conscious of sexual topics and other digressive topics in conversation and choose to talk about other things instead.

You will find your relationships improve drastically. People prefer to be around others who speak respectfully. It will also improve your professionalism at work. Additionally you can avoid habits which are easy to form from using profanity and speaking on inappropriate topics.

Choose to be the civilized type. Raise the standard by speaking politely, even amidst conflict. Use good language and make a choice to steer away from using profanity. Respectful speech wins friends and co-workers more than the damage which swearing can cause.

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How-To Say I Love You PODCAST

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This is Clean Up Dallas with Culture and Kindness, today is April 17, 2020 and today’s podcast is a How-To Podcast on How-To Say I Love You. Today happens to be the wedding anniversary of my parents so I want to say a quick “I love you” to them and wish them a happy 44th wedding anniversary. This month’s theme is Kindness and Kids, & Kind and today we’re going to be sharing some reminders of the importance of saying “I Love You” and saying this frequently within your family and to your children.

First of all here are some statistics…

Did you know that of full-time working parents, 39 percent of mothers and 50 percent of fathers say they feel as if they spend too little time with their children? 59 percent of full-time working mothers say they don’t have enough leisure time, and more than half of working fathers say the same. Of parents with college degrees, 65 percent said they found it difficult to balance a job and family; 49 percent of non-graduates said the same. 

Based on these statistics, families are finding it more difficult to spend time together. However, with the quarantine mandated by the Coronavirus families must stay home and therefore have more time to spend with each other. Parents also have more time to relax and have some extra time to enjoy leisure activities at home as well as with their families making it easier than ever, with no excuses, to spend time with them and say “I love you”.

Saying “I love you” can be as simple as saying “hello” to a stranger, giving a hug to someone, saying it with meaning to someone you love, giving someone a compliment, doing something for someone, or one of the best ways is to spend time. Spending quality time in person with someone is needed to grow a relationship and to say “I love you”.  It cannot be replaced by virtual contact which has become part of many relationships.

Kids can tell your parents you love them. If they are small they can draw a picture, help around the house, give hugs and kisses, and express appreciation. Tell your parents you love them!

If you are a parent or a single person, to love someone else, you need to make time in your day to love yourself. Self-love doesn’t have to be selfish. We all need time to care for ourselves and in the end it gives you more energy and the ability to love others even better. Here are some ideas. You can take a walk, write, do something you enjoy, take a bubble bath or other self-care like a massage or pedicure, spend time with other people who bring you joy to be around, vary up your day and routine by adding variety in what you do, eat, and wear, dress up, buy yourself something, pray, think good thoughts, exercise, and find time for those hobbies and activities you enjoy.

In families spending time together in person is essential to the family bond between parents and children, as it is with marriages between spouses. As I was recently going through some books I had collected and hadn’t read yet and found this book which goes along with the theme of kindness and kids and kind. The book is called Ways To Say I Love You: To Those You Love the Most. It’s written by Stephen Arterburn, Carl Dreizler & Jan Dargatz. It is important to tell people in your life how much you love them, and this book provides simple ideas and suggestions to express your love to someone by spending time together.

Each chapter of the book shares a creative idea of how to express “I love you”. The first part of the book addresses spouses and the second part of the book is how parents can express “I love you” to their children in unique ways.

I want to share a few of these ideas out of this book. Some of them may not strike you but maybe it will inspire you to do something for another person and spend time with them in a fun, creative, and meaningful way.

 

[A few random selections read from the book: Ways To Say I Love You: To Those You Love the Most by Stephen Arterburn, Carl Dreizler & Jan Dargatz. Listen to the Full Podcast including Excerpts from the Book]

 

These creative ideas are special ways to bring love to a sometimes loveless world. They are for any two people who love one another—husbands and wives, mothers and daughters; fathers and sons; lifelong friends, parents, grandparents, family; the ideas are designed to create closeness in all kinds of loving relationships. I’m sure you can come up with many ideas on your own! Spend this time of quarantine to spend more time with your kids, your spouse, and yourself. Say “I love you” by saying it frequently and showing it by spending time together as a family and with your kids. Build a special bond, by letting them know you love them!

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Positively Disciplined to Be a Kind Kid

Families set the foundation for how children first learn to be loving and interact with others. The values children are raised with become a core part of how they view the world and live their life. Although influenced later in life as teens, in college, and as adults, the core system of beliefs are essential to win against any trial when tested.

To instruct children is not enough. Forming them means a constant push and pull of keeping them aligned until values and discipline becomes part of their lifestyle. When parents teach, they lead by explanation, by modeling, and by providing gentle but firm correction. It is important that parents communicate expectations and what consequences will occur if expectations are not followed.

There is a difference between correction which focuses on the error, and correction which is positive and builds up. Telling a child, “You lied and are going to be nothing but a liar when you grow up”, is not as helpful or encouraging as, “I know you realize how important honesty is.” Affirming, correcting, being positive, and stating facts with minimal blame is the best approach to discipline. A child needs to know they are loved, and there is room for mistakes, but that there are expectations.

Parents must be consistent in what they teach, in what they say, and how they live. They also must be respectful and maintain self-control. Being respectful, parents teach their children how to maturely have a conversation and also how to deal with others during conflict. They do not tolerate name calling, tantrums, or using insults to tear down. Parents also must not lose control, agitated by children or the circumstance. A calm demeanor helps de-escalate confrontations. Always strive to maintain peace, setting time-limits to arguments and consequences, and restoring children to good standing with a clean slate.

Teaching children how to be kind begins at an early age. Parents teach there are boundaries, the importance of sharing, not to cheat or steal, consideration of others, honesty, being polite, practicing generosity, being truthful, standing up for what is right, being respectful, responsible, and obedient to rules or face consequences. These are essential foundations of love and ethics which breed a “Kind Kid” and not just a “Kind Kid” but one who will be successful in having good interactions and spread kindness to others their entire life.

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The Abs of Culture: The ABC’s of Culture and Business

Here are ways to strengthen culture at its core.

A — Acceptance.

Unless you are working at home, chances are you are working with other people. People are all different and while you might get along with most, there are people who just don’t fit the mold set by others. It is easy for bullying to occur or to push these people out of “the circle” of acceptance from the majority. The reason may be diversity, creed, age, sexuality, intellect or any other difference – either they are the “new kid on the block” to the group or they have “been there for too long”. Whatever it may be, if you are committed to working together, you’ll have to find a way to make allowances and that means finding empathy in understanding differences and focusing on common ground.

B —Building Up.

What kind of work environment can survive with negativity and tearing down? Everyone likes to be told they did a good job and be appreciated. It is easy to get so focused on projects that the simplest phrases of appreciation and compliments might never be said.  Make a point to tell those you work with “Thank you!” or “I appreciate that you did that!” or “It really made a difference!” more often. Look them in the eye when you express a compliment. Be sincere. Send a word of thanks by email that is really meant. These can go a long way in building morale in the work environment.

C — Consideration of Others.

In today’s culture of “me-ism” the importance of self naturally spills over into the workplace. Instead of being considerate of others on the team, it is easy to only focus on how any task or expectation might impact you. Instead of seeing how something might inconvenience you, see how you can make someone else’s job easier. Maybe it is preparing a little more thoroughly for a meeting in advance. Perhaps it is completing your work earlier than expected for the next stage in the process. Instead of being project related, maybe it means dressing nicely for work, practicing good hygiene, smiling and having a positive spirit, or always appreciating others rather than finding what you don’t like about them.

Sitting up to improving culture in the workplace?

When you practice kindness in the workplace, the culture at work changes over time to one with a solid core group of people. Increased productivity. More pleasant interactions. Happier overall job satisfaction. Less turnover.

Spring Into Kindness—At work.

—Clean Up Dallas with Culture and Kindness

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Kindness at Work: Extending Beyond the Work Cube

Deadlines to meet and schedules to adhere to— there can be little time to know fellow co-workers other than a quick “hello”. You might know a few basic facts, like Ralph goes home and like to watch the NFL game and have his buddies over occasionally. Or that Susan is trying to get her kid into the band next year to play tuba rather than piccolo. Or Katie has a reoccurring allergy which is causing all sorts of phone calls to get the carpet washed, drapes vacuumed, and her prized possession, her Sheep Dog, scheduled for his weekly hair dressing appointment. Most of this you overhear as you hide behind your cube wall, keeping busy with the projects you have to do. But when was the last time you made time to find out the reason your co-worker is so frazzled after coming in to work late? Or near tears because the deadline is approaching and despite all the hard work, it is not going all as planned after all. Taking time to observe personal issues, within reason, and reacting to them adds warmth and humanity to what can become a cold office of strangers.

Add to refilling the coffee in your cup with a couple of minutes of conversation with a nearby co-worker. Ask how he or she is doing—it might just make a difference at the next conference meeting when you’re battling over decisions for the vendor for the next project. Speaking of wrestling, maybe it’s time to call it a tie with some of the little office nuances that irk people like leaving the coffee filter in the coffee pot overnight, or coming in late with the editorial, or not leaving time to check everything before someone calls the shots that the project is in overtime already.

Office environments which welcome a pace that allows for a little bit of time for personal interactions, helps alleviate tensions which can easily become part of the workplace. By extending a few more compliments, offering words of empathy, and being more thoughtful and considerate, the office work environment transforms, springing back with a refreshed team spirit. Laugh if you want. Some of that is good too!

Kindness at work.

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72 Little Tricks for Big Success Communicating on the Job

by Leil Lowndes, Joyce Bean

 


 

Goals to Inspire Others

Choose to be a light of inspiration for all those who you encounter throughout the day. In how you communicate, what you do, and what you have to say, you have the ability to positively impact someone’s day. How you interact can cause a domino effect to affect others for better or worse. By resolving to raise your personal standard of etiquette, respect, and kindness, you will notice your relationships improve. Noticing an improvement with yourself, you will also see a significant change in how others interact with you. Living this way as a good example, others will also notice and re-evaluate how they are speaking and acting. You can be an example to others in the way you speech and act. Practicing good etiquette will add the dynamic components of respect, value, and human dignity to your relationships. Change the world! Inspire a culture of kindness and respect.


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Goals for Kindness

We often think of kindness as a random act of kindness done for another person or a donating time to a volunteer effort. Kindness comes in many other forms that you can do by yourself everyday. Smile, stand up for someone in defense, give a compliment, smile more, ask someone how you can help them, send a kind note, offer to help someone who is sick or has trouble with mobility, or send up an extra prayer.

Make a commitment to kindness as one of your goals for this year. Plan to set aside a day once a month to volunteer. Help someone by yourself or serve as part of a volunteer team. On a daily basis, make a commitment to try to be kind to one person a day, in a big or small way. In November we shared a video on How-To Make a Kindness Journal. If you haven’t started one, you might consider getting a journal or calendar and begin a journey of kindness this year. Notice all of the ways you make a difference over the course of the next 12 months. Kindness multiples, as one life affects another.


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Books
HumanKind: Changing the World One Small Act At a Time
by Brad Aronson

Radical Kindness: The Life-Changing Power of Giving and Receiving
by Angela Santomero and Deepak Chopra