Personality of Coronavirus

I am surprised at how compliant everyone has been with wearing a mask. It is mandatory within stores and public buildings, but it is just as common to see people wearing masks outside exercising. In Texas, even with the heat in the 100’s, people are continuing to wear masks outdoors, sweating from fear of the Coronavirus.

I think it would be interesting to do a psychological study of people based on how much they are masking themselves. As concern for the Coronavirus has continued, I’ve noticed people covering up their faces more and more. In retail environments where there have been the most people, I have seen people so covered up you cannot even see their face! How can the police even identify a thief anymore? Women are seen wearing large sunglasses and masks so that only their foreheads are left uncovered. Men wear bandanas that cover up the entire bottom half of their face below their eyes. Whereas in most cases it is difficult to implement any kind of policy, somehow wearing a mask is not even questioned. There are very few people who argue with it. How many of these are wearing a mask for prevention reasons and how many are wearing it because of psychological needs for safety, security, love, and belonging?

I have seen people who have their entire face covered. Is this a sign of care and security that the person is trying to create for themselves? Does the amount of coverage of the face signify fulfilling a need of self-love and way of conquering pain in their life, like trying to swaddle themselves in a baby blanket? Or maybe it is coverage from the fear of contracting the virus built up from all the hype and coverage of media, rather than the virus itself.

Perhaps for some, it is a way to physically look better or a means to lose weight. Sweating under a mask burns off calories on an entirely different area of the body than is typical. Similarly, with weight loss, how is it that a person can breathe who is exercising with their mouth and nose covered? I had a gym membership and it was manageable to walk on a treadmill at a slow speed with a mask on. However, any faster cardio activity was nearly impossible as the mask restrained breathing and caused my face to become really hot. Do people who workout intensely masked think it will strengthen their lungs by restraining their air? For those who are self-conscious about the bottom half of their face, it provides a chance to keep it hidden, but for most of us, we need a full supply of air. Likewise, it is a mystery to me how cyclists are able to ride their bikes completely masked. Yet many of them are cycling miles around the lake at the same speed as normal. How many of the walkers and runners with dogs on a leash do not care that the Coronavirus can be contracted to their pet? Where are the pet masks? Wouldn’t it make more sense if both pet and owner wore a mask or didn’t?

Living in a self-expressive era, people are eager to express themselves and show their personality and style. For those who care to express themselves by mask, wearing a unique mask is a way to do this. The number of styles I have seen have ranged from glitter and bling, to exaggerated mouths on the mask, patriotic versions, cartoons, and plenty of different colors and patterns. Those who love to sew, were quick to see the Coronavirus as an opportunity to show their skills. Handmade masks were made and distributed to friends and family members. Many still wear the basic disposable, blue and white mask. Bandanas also have been a quick makeshift for a mask, easily made by folding a bandana into thirds and popping hair bands on each end.

Very few people are actually practicing social distancing with 6 feet of space, but wearing a mask is followed by nearly the entire population and has become a trend. Has self-expression and the trend for fashion tied in with keywords like “social distancing” created a fad to drive compliancy?

Health and self-expression are always going to be top-sellers when it comes to the general public. Having an ailment or a special condition, makes you a commodity. We see this with parents and their children. “My child has ADHD”, or whatever other symptom, suddenly makes the child “special” and the parents have a topic to talk about. Topics revolve around the problem with their child, rather than emphasizing what the child excels in. This is a way parents can converse with one another encountering less feeling of inadequacy. Empathy can be found with a health issue, whereas bragging on talent might create adversity with another parent. The same type of approach applies to adult-to-adult conversation. Adults would rather discuss their woes rather than talk about what is uplifting. How many older people talk about their pains, medications and doctors visits when it would be more pleasant to hear about their life experiences. It creates a concern for self, which results in compassion from the other person. With the Coronavirus everyone gets a special band-aid pasted on their face.

It is understandable that vulnerable populations such as the elderly might have a greater fear of catching the Coronavirus. One would think that children would be of a higher concern as well. In retail store environments, I have heard mothers question why their children must wear a mask or if an exception can be made. Events and kids meals might make exceptions for kids, but with smaller lungs and little bodies, it would seem obvious they would fall into the high concern bracket. Psychologically is it that the parent feels neglected of care and must nurture themselves by wearing a mask while giving the child the benefit of freedom? The parent positions him or herself as the one who needs care above the child, when it should be both.

With the rich and famous, masking opens up more opportunities to be in public and not be identified. For those aspiring to be rich and famous, they too can dress differently and go around town in mask for a different experience. It is a chance for the affluent to be fashionable and show their sense of fashion by affording specialized masks to coordinate with their outfits. An article was posted about the Queen of England who wears a mask that matches her daily wardrobe of brightly colored suits. I also saw a young woman in downtown Dallas who had a mask made of the exact material of her outfit.  

While some cultures such as Islam require head coverings, covering the face is new for most Western cultures. Will this develop a greater appreciation for our mouths? An uncovered mouth is needed for sound and volume. Many hard of hearing must be affected by not being able to hear people who have mouth coverings on. It may create a new vision for how we see people, noticing the person rather than the external qualities. The mouth is also used for reading facial expressions. A person can take a vacation from smiling and no one will even know. I’ve even seen people stick their tongue out at me from behind their mask. And as for revenue from foundation makeup and lipstick, I would imagine sales are down. Personally, I prefer to be mask-free as much as possible, but follow policies where wearing a mask is required.

Wearing a mask is the perfect prelude to a reformation of etiquette in our culture. After being in timeout with the Coronavirus, with shelter in place, we were able to have a greater appreciation for our freedom and ability to interact with one another. Covering the mouth and nose, can visually signify halting gossip and nosiness, which is also indicative of rudeness. When restrictions were lifted for public shopping, it was a renewed experience of respectfulness of distance and the exclusiveness of having space while shopping. People were obedient to this and cautious of infecting others by following social distancing procedures. Now that most places have opened up, there seems to be not much difference as everyday life returns to normal. When we take our masks off, we will see other people’s faces again. What it would be like to remove the band-aids over our mouths and noses yielding a healed and healthy society of people. Furthermore, what if being mask-free meant a world culture safe from the Coronavirus, and one with a greater respectfulness for each other in our interactions and speech.  

Note: It is noted that the Coronavirus is real and has caused many deaths worldwide. This article is written from another perspective hoping to present other points such as how well marketed the Coronavirus has been with precautions followed seamlessly by the majority of the population because of the scare. A lack of respectfulness in today’s culture is equally contagious and deadly, which is a natural segue to this current worldwide concern.


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Dating: How to Ask

Why is it important to ask politely when it comes to dating? Well, for one thing, it is a good indication of politeness and respect. Another reason politeness is important is that it is a form of humbleness.

If you are not familiar with the word “namaste” it is a word from Hinduism which is used as a salutation. It means “I bow to the divine in you.” This unique word reminds a person of the dignity and worth of the person before them.

With couple relationships, the ideal relationship is just that, bowing to the other person and making them the priority with love, service, and within reason, putting their need, above one’s own. The most successful relationships are those which put the other person before one’s self.

Another example of putting others first is by observing what boundaries they have and not intruding upon them. It is always good etiquette to ask permission, so as not to not intrude on boundaries, and tip toeing with grace and politeness, before making assumptions which may insult or otherwise be damaging. If you don’t know, just ask!

It is not outdated. Discover where boundaries are and respect them. When honor is given it causes the relationship to flourish.

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—Clean Up Dallas with Culture and Kindness


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How-To Say I Love You PODCAST

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This is Clean Up Dallas with Culture and Kindness, today is April 17, 2020 and today’s podcast is a How-To Podcast on How-To Say I Love You. Today happens to be the wedding anniversary of my parents so I want to say a quick “I love you” to them and wish them a happy 44th wedding anniversary. This month’s theme is Kindness and Kids, & Kind and today we’re going to be sharing some reminders of the importance of saying “I Love You” and saying this frequently within your family and to your children.

First of all here are some statistics…

Did you know that of full-time working parents, 39 percent of mothers and 50 percent of fathers say they feel as if they spend too little time with their children? 59 percent of full-time working mothers say they don’t have enough leisure time, and more than half of working fathers say the same. Of parents with college degrees, 65 percent said they found it difficult to balance a job and family; 49 percent of non-graduates said the same. 

Based on these statistics, families are finding it more difficult to spend time together. However, with the quarantine mandated by the Coronavirus families must stay home and therefore have more time to spend with each other. Parents also have more time to relax and have some extra time to enjoy leisure activities at home as well as with their families making it easier than ever, with no excuses, to spend time with them and say “I love you”.

Saying “I love you” can be as simple as saying “hello” to a stranger, giving a hug to someone, saying it with meaning to someone you love, giving someone a compliment, doing something for someone, or one of the best ways is to spend time. Spending quality time in person with someone is needed to grow a relationship and to say “I love you”.  It cannot be replaced by virtual contact which has become part of many relationships.

Kids can tell your parents you love them. If they are small they can draw a picture, help around the house, give hugs and kisses, and express appreciation. Tell your parents you love them!

If you are a parent or a single person, to love someone else, you need to make time in your day to love yourself. Self-love doesn’t have to be selfish. We all need time to care for ourselves and in the end it gives you more energy and the ability to love others even better. Here are some ideas. You can take a walk, write, do something you enjoy, take a bubble bath or other self-care like a massage or pedicure, spend time with other people who bring you joy to be around, vary up your day and routine by adding variety in what you do, eat, and wear, dress up, buy yourself something, pray, think good thoughts, exercise, and find time for those hobbies and activities you enjoy.

In families spending time together in person is essential to the family bond between parents and children, as it is with marriages between spouses. As I was recently going through some books I had collected and hadn’t read yet and found this book which goes along with the theme of kindness and kids and kind. The book is called Ways To Say I Love You: To Those You Love the Most. It’s written by Stephen Arterburn, Carl Dreizler & Jan Dargatz. It is important to tell people in your life how much you love them, and this book provides simple ideas and suggestions to express your love to someone by spending time together.

Each chapter of the book shares a creative idea of how to express “I love you”. The first part of the book addresses spouses and the second part of the book is how parents can express “I love you” to their children in unique ways.

I want to share a few of these ideas out of this book. Some of them may not strike you but maybe it will inspire you to do something for another person and spend time with them in a fun, creative, and meaningful way.

 

[A few random selections read from the book: Ways To Say I Love You: To Those You Love the Most by Stephen Arterburn, Carl Dreizler & Jan Dargatz. Listen to the Full Podcast including Excerpts from the Book]

 

These creative ideas are special ways to bring love to a sometimes loveless world. They are for any two people who love one another—husbands and wives, mothers and daughters; fathers and sons; lifelong friends, parents, grandparents, family; the ideas are designed to create closeness in all kinds of loving relationships. I’m sure you can come up with many ideas on your own! Spend this time of quarantine to spend more time with your kids, your spouse, and yourself. Say “I love you” by saying it frequently and showing it by spending time together as a family and with your kids. Build a special bond, by letting them know you love them!

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Positively Disciplined to Be a Kind Kid

Families set the foundation for how children first learn to be loving and interact with others. The values children are raised with become a core part of how they view the world and live their life. Although influenced later in life as teens, in college, and as adults, the core system of beliefs are essential to win against any trial when tested.

To instruct children is not enough. Forming them means a constant push and pull of keeping them aligned until values and discipline becomes part of their lifestyle. When parents teach, they lead by explanation, by modeling, and by providing gentle but firm correction. It is important that parents communicate expectations and what consequences will occur if expectations are not followed.

There is a difference between correction which focuses on the error, and correction which is positive and builds up. Telling a child, “You lied and are going to be nothing but a liar when you grow up”, is not as helpful or encouraging as, “I know you realize how important honesty is.” Affirming, correcting, being positive, and stating facts with minimal blame is the best approach to discipline. A child needs to know they are loved, and there is room for mistakes, but that there are expectations.

Parents must be consistent in what they teach, in what they say, and how they live. They also must be respectful and maintain self-control. Being respectful, parents teach their children how to maturely have a conversation and also how to deal with others during conflict. They do not tolerate name calling, tantrums, or using insults to tear down. Parents also must not lose control, agitated by children or the circumstance. A calm demeanor helps de-escalate confrontations. Always strive to maintain peace, setting time-limits to arguments and consequences, and restoring children to good standing with a clean slate.

Teaching children how to be kind begins at an early age. Parents teach there are boundaries, the importance of sharing, not to cheat or steal, consideration of others, honesty, being polite, practicing generosity, being truthful, standing up for what is right, being respectful, responsible, and obedient to rules or face consequences. These are essential foundations of love and ethics which breed a “Kind Kid” and not just a “Kind Kid” but one who will be successful in having good interactions and spread kindness to others their entire life.

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Loving Kind: Putting Others First

Love is a big word. It encompasses the feeling you with God, within romantic relationships, for your parents, your child, husband, wife, love for your dog, your favorite ice-cream, and when you enjoy an experience so much that you “just love it!”. In many relationships where there is love, there is also hate. A kind person focuses on seeing what they love rather than focusing on what they hate.

It is easy to be loving when people are nice. We often are very loving to our family and friends—but the people who take advantage of us or are rude and inconsiderate are more of a challenge. The hardest loving kind of task is to love the unkind, or the haters. This are the people who are difficult, who insult, are rude, and who you want to run the other way from rather than counter their rudeness with loving statements and actions.

One of the easiest ways to commit to being loving and kind is to always choose to love. Try using your smile on everyone you meet during the day, greet others with sincerity and warmth, think of thoughtful ways you can do things for another person, speak gingerly on sensitive matters, and give more hugs. Being a loving kind of person is being thoughtful when people are going through a difficult time, listening, affirming with words, or being supportive in other ways. It is choosing to always speak well of others, countering negative talk and gossip about others. It is being welcoming, inclusive, and excited to see someone, grateful they exist and appreciating their good qualities.

Kindness is love in action by having empathy and consideration for another person and acting upon it. We all can do this, even if it is in a small way. Notice people who could use extra kindness especially this month. You might pick a certain person and see what you can do over a certain amount of time. See how your kindness affects them. One of the easiest ways is in how we speak. Sincere compliments and words of kindness are rare. Notice who may need kind words and speak them. How many times do you catch yourself speaking hatefully? Speak only of the positive about anything and be generous in what you have to say about others.

Most of all, loving others means putting others first. Bring a smile on their face. When you love another person by considering their wants, feelings, and needs as a priority, you are being loving and the kind of person others want to be around. Practice kindness by loving this way to all you meet. You will increase in humbleness and you will see that you are loving people with your kindness without even trying.

When you love, it comes back to you in some way! It’s always worth being a loving kind of person—and run toward kindness as fast as you can!

—Clean Up Dallas with Culture and Kindness
@cultureofkind


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Faith and Kindness, and Checking It Twice Expresso

We would like to think that people who place an importance of faith in their life tend to be more kind. In most cases, this is true. People who are faith-based find accountability with God and the commandments, or the spiritual laws found in their religion. Faith-based people follow these spiritual laws because it is what will result in the greatest happiness long-term both in this life and the next. Rules exist for a reason, and usually it is to prevent harm. We are always free to break the rules, but at the cost of the loss of our own true happiness or as pain to others.

Living a good life and being loving people toward others is a way to honor God who created us. Having faith puts life in perspective providing guidance and direction. Instead of blindly trying to live life traveling a path without a conscience, a faith-based person has at least some guidelines of what to follow. These usually are based around love and making choices which will bring love and not hate to the world. From this love positive things can happen, whereas hate brings destruction.

Faith-based people also have the ability to make things change with their mindset and their faith in God. They see past low-points which may seem to be utter hopelessness and an end, and re-frame their mindset knowing instead that where they are is a temporary place which will change for the better in a future point in time—within the next second or over the course of years. They are able to see past the darkness of despair and are able to find a light within themselves, refusing to believe that hopelessness exists. Faith-based people are able to keep hope going when the wick is barely lit. Just like a candle which is used to light other candles, people who are faith-based can also use their faith to ignite the faith in others who may be going through a difficult time. They can do this through ministry or by praying for the other person. They also can share kind words of encouragement that they have faith that whatever the other is going through will soon change to something better.

People who are faith-based, spend time reflecting on their actions and how they are living their life on a regular basis. This reflection helps align their path with what is right and which will be the most loving path. Therefore, people who have faith tend to be more kind because they have a structure in place, with guidance to keep them on the path of being loving people. By spending more time with your faith, and with God, you will naturally have the desire to live a life which brings kindness to other people.


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Compliments—a Spoken Gift of Kindness

Complimentary thoughts spoken can be twice as powerful when shared. Sincere compliments are thoughtful ways to express admiration toward someone. It is a way to politely and honestly say that you admire or appreciate a quality about another person. It warms the heart and often brings a smile. When was the last time you gave someone a compliment?

Compliments are not as popular as they used to be. Sarcasm and cut-downs are more commonly heard as the trend, tainted with the preferred flavor of negativity. Much of the time, it can be the culture of the circle of people you surround yourself with or interact with throughout the day. These groups, whether personal or professional, may classify negative comments or thoughtless remarks as “it is just the way it is, and we don’t mean to hurt anyone, and we all understand that”. Or do they? These type of remarks can hit the core of people and may be absorbed without expressing the hurt they cause the person. Compliments bring positive energy, boosting the mood of the one it is given to and often the result is the person responding with positive energy. It is unquestionably a sprinkle of praise which can do a world of good, beyond that which you may never even realize.

A compliment is easy to give to someone you know, but it must be genuinely said with sincerity and within the right context. If you compliment someone in the wrong context, the compliment could easily be an insult rather than a compliment. It is easiest to compliment people who are known because we already know the qualities we like about them. How frequently do you appreciate these qualities by vocalizing them? Try to make complimenting as part of your list each day and compliment 1-3 people. Don’t be shy.

For those who appreciate and practice spirituality, we can also compliment the Creator by making compliments throughout the day about the beauty around us. This is a healthy step away from electronics and the busyness of life by noticing the natural world that we often don’t notice. Take a break, observe, and give Him a compliment, saying “I like that sunrise.”, or “You did a great job on the flowers and the squirrels.”, “Thank you for creating these people whom I appreciate and whom I see You in, in all their many positive qualities.”

We run into plenty of strangers during the day who we can also compliment. These compliments generally are about external qualities that are observed, such as attractive physical looks or appearance such as clothing. However, compliments can also be given for an action such as opening a door. It is polite to return a compliment for the thoughtfulness of an act of kindness, as it acknowledges and praises the person in appreciation. This promotes a culture of kindness and is a positive way to encourage kindness.

So take care to spread this little love of kindness selectively and only when you truly mean it. Some recipients may respond back negating the comment. React with a big smile, reassuring them that you speak in truth. Give someone a compliment today! 

Here are a list of compliments. Pick a few to use today or come up with your own!

You did a great job.
Your perspective is so refreshing.
You are an awesome friend.
You are more helpful than you realize.
I like your sense of humor.
You’re even more beautiful on the inside than you are on the outside.
You bring out the best in people.
You are a good example.
You’re a great listener.
You smell good.
You’re inspiring.
You are brave.
You are strong.
You’re one of a kind.
You have the best ideas.
You are so creative.
You always know what to say.
You’re so thoughtful.
You’re gorgeous.
You’re the coolest person I know.
You look nice today.
You are beautiful.
I think you are handsome.
I appreciate you.
I like your style.
You are one of the nicest people I know.
You have the best laugh.
You’re a gift to those around you.
I am so proud of your accomplishments.
Look at you, you are dressed so nicely today.
Thank you for helping me.
Thank you for your encouragement.
You made my day.
You are super.
I enjoy being around you.
I really appreciate that you respect my privacy.
Thank you for respecting when I say “stop”.
Thank you for respecting my space.
Thank you for respecting my wishes when I say “no”.
Thank you for making time for me in person.
Hanging out with you is always a blast.
I know I can trust you.
I know that I can confide in you because you are trustworthy.
Thank you for your honesty.
Thank you for being you.
This dish you made is fabulous.
That is a really great idea.
I am proud of you.
You can always find the right words to say, even when everything is wrong.
People pay attention and respect you.
You are a role model to so many.
I admire your patience.
All of your hard work shows with how this has turned out.
You worked really hard on that and it certainly was worth the time and energy in the end.
You are so organized and neat.
You are so resourceful.
You are such a blessing.
You are a spiritual role model.
You are a great teacher.
Thank you for showing me.
Thank you for sharing.
You are so thoughtful.
That means so much to me.
Thank you for taking the time.
You are making a difference.

And..
If you were a box of crayons, you’d be the giant name-brand one with the built-in sharpener.
You’re all that and a super-size bag of chips.
Aside from food, you’re my favorite.
You’re more fun than bubble wrap.
I bet you do the crossword puzzle in ink.
There’s ordinary, and then there’s you.
You’re better than a triple-scoop ice cream cone. With sprinkles.

[written for @cultureofkind]


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Building Steem

Blocks of triangles, ovals and rectangles all standing together to build a structure. Together building the creation. Not one block is an unnecessary block but an essential part of the whole construction of a life created uniquely and importantly by God. Yet when the others see a part as an oddity rather than unique, suddenly the structure can crumble.

A Square Box
Being different can be viewed as a uniqueness or oddity. Until a child is fed with knowledge of being different by external factors, they will be satisfied with who they are. It is when a child is compared to others, either by themselves or others, that they begin to be aware of differences. Over time, the child’s self-esteem can be affected as a result of being categorized as an outcast of society. Children with self-anomalies may face additional struggles with self-esteem, even more than the average child, due to obvious physical differences. Having a positive self-image and defining one’s own worth, can help counter thoughts or opinions which set them apart.

Your Circle
Each person has a uniqueness about them. As parents, one of the goals in raising children should be to build a strong, internal character of self-worth. Parents can do this in several ways. One of the easiest ways is loving the child for who they are and teaching them to love others. Praise and affirmation can go a long way in positively reinforcing a child’s self-esteem until they can sustain a belief in self-worth on their own. Frequently praising a child for their efforts and recognizing ways they’ve achieved success can increase motivation and teach them to love themselves. Parents have a key role in teaching a child how to have a good mindset and outlook on life. By teaching a child to find positiveness and successes in each day, the child learns how to have a positive mindset. This builds positive energy and a positive outlook on their world and life which they can then apply to themselves internally. Other ways a child can learn to build self-esteem is through their interaction with others. A parent can be a good example in teaching a child how to love others by doing something for them. Intrinsic benefits come from being charitable. Even something as simple as a smile or a friendly hello to someone can be contagious and change an entire interchange into a positive one. The child’s self-esteem can grow from within themselves and their interaction with the world around them.

The Triangle On Top
Parent’s also have a responsibility to teach children their human existence matters. Not only do they have worth to their parents and world, but moreover by the one who created all existence, God. By teaching religion, parents teach children value given to them beyond this world.

What about Checking the Foundation
Parents should be aware of any differences in a child’s behavior which may be a result of low self-esteem. Children with low self-esteem may be more nervous, lack motivation, or have a lack of confidence. Dive in and find out what is causing unusual behavior by asking questions. Even if a child may not be successful, their effort can be noticed and praised as something to be proud of. Acknowledge what may be bringing a child down by inviting conversation with the child asking them why they feel they may not have been as successful. Don’t try to resolve the issue or smooth it over but be a support to them. As parents there is a responsibility to have faith in the child and their ability. Encourage the child to keep trying and preserve. This teaches motivation in overcoming difficulties which will help them in future struggles. Parents can rejoice with their child in small successes by focusing on their positiveness accomplishments no matter how small. These small stepping stones are golden in building self-esteem. Over time, the child learns to commend themselves and find ways to build self-esteem on their own through self-affirmation.

The Right Stuff
Another method of building self-esteem, is through journaling. A parent can establish daily journaling as part of a child’s routine. The child can notate what they have accomplished for the day, write something positive about the day they experienced or something they did for someone, and what they are most proud of that day. This builds a habit of daily self-affirmation and grows self-esteem through realizing positive experiences.

The Windows
In older children, self-esteem can be affected by media, the internet, and more specifically through social media sites. It is important to monitor social media to gauge how it may be affecting children or young adults with regards to self-image. More information is shared online than ever before. The constant exchange of information can easily lead to social bullying, formation of negative thoughts, and jealousy. At the same time, there is plenty of positive social sharing online which can help build self-esteem in young adults. Monitoring how media is affecting your child and having open discussions about what they are being exposed to can proactively prevent low self-esteem and depression.

A Definition of Structure
The world will always see differences. Those with negative self-esteem make it their mission to tear others down because they lack a true value of self-worth of themselves. When we like ourselves, we can better accept the differences of others. There is negative unity found in destruction of those who are not accepted. This negative unity can be contagious as it is magnified and built upon to grow a militia of “popularity” versus “outcast”. Teaching your child to deal little with this and walk away is the best solution. Positiveness builds up, not divides in dishonor of humankind.

The Masterpiece
Teaching children ways of how to react to their environment in a positive way is essential to building good self-esteem. Constant affirmation and recognition of a child’s success teaches children they have worth and eventually results in the child being able to maintain good self-esteem themselves. A child is a gift, just as every human is, and realizing this and learning positive reactions to negative experiences at an early age can result lifetime of good self-image.

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