Compliments—a Spoken Gift of Kindness

Do you think well of someone? Do you notice a quality you admire or find beautiful or inspiring? Then say it! Compliments can be twice as powerful when shared. Sincere compliments are thoughtful ways to express admiration toward someone. It is a way to politely and honestly say that you admire or appreciate a quality about another person. It warms the heart and often brings a smile. When was the last time you gave someone a compliment?

Compliments are not as popular as they used to be. Sarcasm and cut-downs are more commonly heard as the trend, tainted with the preferred flavor of negativity. Much of the time, it can be the culture of the circle of people you surround yourself with or interact with throughout the day. These groups, whether personal or professional, may classify negative comments or thoughtless remarks as “it is just the way it is, and we don’t mean to hurt anyone, and we all understand that”. Or do they? These type of remarks can hit the core of people and may be absorbed without expressing the hurt they cause the person. Compliments bring positive energy, boosting the mood of the one it is given to and often the result is the person responding with positive energy. It is unquestionably a sprinkle of praise which can do a world of good, beyond that which you may never even realize.

A compliment is easy to give to someone you know, but it must be genuinely said with sincerity and within the right context. If you compliment someone in the wrong context, the compliment could easily be an insult rather than a compliment. It is easiest to compliment people who are known because we already know the qualities we like about them. How frequently do you appreciate these qualities by vocalizing them? Try to make complimenting as part of your list each day and compliment 1-3 people. Don’t be shy.

For those who appreciate and practice spirituality, we can also compliment the Creator by making compliments throughout the day about the beauty around us. This is a healthy step away from electronics and the busyness of life by noticing the natural world that we often don’t notice. Take a break, observe, and give Him a compliment, saying “I like that sunrise.”, or “You did a great job on the flowers and the squirrels.”, “Thank you for creating these people whom I appreciate and whom I see You in, in all their many positive qualities.”

We run into plenty of strangers during the day who we can also compliment. These compliments generally are about external qualities that are observed, such as attractive physical looks or appearance such as clothing. However, compliments can also be given for an action such as opening a door. It is polite to return a compliment for the thoughtfulness of an act of kindness, as it acknowledges and praises the person in appreciation. This promotes a culture of kindness and is a positive way to encourage kindness.

So take care to spread this little love of kindness selectively and only when you truly mean it. Some recipients may respond back negating the comment. React with a big smile, reassuring them that you speak in truth. Give someone a compliment today! 

Here are a list of compliments. Pick a few to use today or come up with your own!

You did a great job.
Your perspective is so refreshing.
You are an awesome friend.
You are more helpful than you realize.
I like your sense of humor.
You’re even more beautiful on the inside than you are on the outside.
You bring out the best in people.
You are a good example.
You’re a great listener.
You smell good.
You’re inspiring.
You are brave.
You are strong.
You’re one of a kind.
You have the best ideas.
You are so creative.
You always know what to say.
You’re so thoughtful.
You’re gorgeous.
You’re the coolest person I know.
You look nice today.
You are beautiful.
I think you are handsome.
I appreciate you.
I like your style.
You are one of the nicest people I know.
You have the best laugh.
You’re a gift to those around you.
I am so proud of your accomplishments.
Look at you, you are dressed so nicely today.
Thank you for helping me.
Thank you for your encouragement.
You made my day.
You are super.
I enjoy being around you.
I really appreciate that you respect my privacy.
Thank you for respecting when I say “stop”.
Thank you for respecting my space.
Thank you for respecting my wishes when I say “no”.
Thank you for making time for me in person.
Hanging out with you is always a blast.
I know I can trust you.
I know that I can confide in you because you are trustworthy.
Thank you for your honesty.
Thank you for being you.
This dish you made is fabulous.
That is a really great idea.
I am proud of you.
You can always find the right words to say, even when everything is wrong.
People pay attention and respect you.
You are a role model to so many.
I admire your patience.
All of your hard work shows with how this has turned out.
You worked really hard on that and it certainly was worth the time and energy in the end.
You are so organized and neat.
You are so resourceful.
You are such a blessing.
You are a spiritual role model.
You are a great teacher.
Thank you for showing me.
Thank you for sharing.
You are so thoughtful.
That means so much to me.
Thank you for taking the time.
You are making a difference.

If you were a box of crayons, you’d be the giant name-brand one with the built-in sharpener.
You’re all that and a super-size bag of chips.
Aside from food, you’re my favorite.
You’re more fun than bubble wrap.
I bet you do the crossword puzzle in ink.
There’s ordinary, and then there’s you.
You’re better than a triple-scoop ice cream cone. With sprinkles.

[written for @cultureofkind]

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